These past two years have been an eye opening experience in terms of what works and doesn’t work for a lot of us. Setting boundaries is something that is difficult, especially if you come from a culture that thinks boundaries are disrespectful. Too often, we take on too many things because those before us did. They tell us too often that they cooked, cleaned, got the kids ready for school, and worked all day. Or on the other hand, they worked, did yard work, caught the food, and was the one who handled the bills and took care of the home. They did those things out of necessity and societal cues. We are not previous generations. We can make the changes that they were unable to make.
When Nedra Glover Tawwab published Set Boundaries, Find Peace: a guide to reclaiming yourself; baby, it was a true blessing. As someone who didn’t understand the past trauma and how it was affecting my relationships, this book along with having the time to do some self reflection, allowed for me to tackle some long seeded issues.
When we hear the word boundaries, it sounds as though we are closing ourselves off, which in a way, we are. However, we are deciding on the things we want and can control in order to not have a response that is rooted in a past trauma or just unwanted.
This book teaches us what boundaries are, how we can apply them to different situations such as relationships or work or social media and technology, and commonly asked questions to different scenarios and how to handle them.
I hope this book allows you to be more authentic and happy in your interactions with the people around you and also yourself. You are the one that always chooses how you want your story to unfold and be told. We all need help in becoming the best version of ourselves and this book should be one of your helpers.
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Xoxo~Christilisa
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